I picked up this Bardot Lace Dress for two occasions – a local Library Gala as well as to commemorate my first blogging anniversary. More on that later on because I just can’t wait to sing the praises of the dress and the Bardot brand overall.
A lot of the Bardot dresses have the lace overlay element in common. It is very well executed with attention to detail and quality in mind. The lace provides that skin peekaboo effect and comes with a sexy shorter length slip but is not too revealing.
I was especially drawn to this Bardot Lace Dress because of the sweetheart neckline contrasting against the lace halter. The navy color is a great alternative to the classic black dress and I had so much fun pairing it with a bright pink lip and accessories. (You know how much I’ve been loving that hot pink color!) And if all of the above didn’t convince you, I hope the price point does – all dresses are around $120-$160, which is a very reasonable price for a cocktail dress.
Here are some other examples of gorgeous lace overlay dresses by the Australian brand.
The beginning of this November marks the one year anniversary of the start of my blog. I can’t believe it’s been a year already!
I wanted to write something very honest about how I have been feeling about the whole blogging thing after a full year of doing it. But even as I attempt to do it, I waiver about wether what I want to say is too negative and whiney and if I should be more positive on this occasion. And therein lies my problem! Even though this is my little space to come and write as I please, I almost never do.
The blog hasn’t really been a place of honesty and authenticity for me. My writing doesn’t sound like me, it sounds fake and I’m not proud of it. I feel irritated with myself, frustrated! I blame the goals I set for myself and the paralyzing factor of speaking at a very public forum. The desire to appeal to a large and diverse audience can be very stunting to personal expression. Who knew I was a pleaser!
So when it comes to my goals (the biggest one being that I want to generate a little bit of income from this fun hobby) I operate in a way that I believe will put me on the path of reaching that goal. That impacts the decisions I make – from what clothes to show, to how I write. I have a personal style that is not necessarily always conducive to sales. It’s not everybody’s cup of tea, especially not the masses. So do I play to the least common denominator and present what I know will sell? Or do I acquire clothes and accessories that are impractical for my lifestyle and basically play dress up with nothing to show for it but a growing wardrobe?
The desire to grow and be discoverable by search engines demands that my writing adheres to a set of rules. Like not starting more than two consecutive sentences with the same word. But sometimes that is necessary for effect in poetic and literary writing. And I have appreciation for that but the damn SEO limits me.
So this where it’s starting to sound very whiney, but I will keep going …
Then there’s the issue of subject matter. I have plenty of things to say sometimes but worry about offending my readers, or even offending people I know in real life. I am a person with strong opinions but I don’t take any pleasure in hurting people so I censor myself. The blog is mostly about fashion and style but it is also about me and my brand and I am definitely more than just a pretty outfit.
And yet I feel like who I am in real life does not translate well in my writing. It bothers me that pretty much every post goes something like this: here’s a nice outfit, this is why I like it, and you should buy it. Vapid! At the same time, if people are going to a fashion blog, they mostly want to look at pictures and be inspired. They don’t want to read six paragraphs of philosophizing every.single.time! I suppose there is a balance, right? A little bit of this, a little bit of that, makes for the perfect soup!
I feel the pressure to do what “the industry” (other bloggers) is doing. To publish posts about the Nordstrom sale and holiday outfits and to just follow a common script. That’s where I feel shallow and fake. It also creates unnecessary stress for me – as if this was a real job and I had a boss to answer to. The only “boss” I answer to is my own ambition.
If you’ve followed along you probably know that I had to undergo surgery a couple of weeks ago which gave me a valid reason to let go of some of this pressure I was imposing on myself. Like publish posts multiple times a week; or always have a Monday post – because my readers would expect that …
I don’t know what my readers expect. I don’t even know if they exist – besides my handful of personal friends and die hard fans (love you guys)! I don’t get a whole lot of feedback from my readers and maybe that’s why it’s so hard for me. I’m shooting in the dark, hoping that my arrows of style are piercing receptive hearts.
Maybe it’s just too soon. I am too impatient and want everything to happen at once. Maybe finding my style, my voice, my niche will take a while. And when it finally happens and I am happy, I will just go back and delete all of the early stuff I’m not proud of any more. But I have a feeling that satisfaction will never come. I am always searching and always striving for more and for the next thing. Never satisfied!
I will not end this by setting goals for myself for the second year. Maybe in another post!
To be continued …