His (not so) Sweet Valentine

Russ (my husband) said to me one day – you don’t do sweet very well.  It wasn’t a criticism – more of an affirmation of what I already knew.  It’s true – sugary sweet and innocent has never been my look.

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Skirt: SHEIN || Jacket: Target, sold out, similar || Top: Target || Shoes: BCBGeneration || Bracelet: Boho Betty (Use STEFANA20 to save 20%)

This year we’re celebrating Valentine’s Day early.  I’m attending New York Fashion Week the weekend before (yay, my first time!) and  Russ is traveling for work on the actual day (booo!)  For Valentine’s Day we usually get a sitter and go out for dinner.  He brings me chocolates and flowers. Although one year I remember telling him I didn’t want chocolates because I was limiting my sweets.  Then I was disappointed I didn’t get my chocolates.  What can I say, I’m full of contradictions.  Or I’m complex – not one thing or another.  Or maybe I’m all of the things.  Just like this outfit – both feminine and edgy, princess and a rocker chic – all in one.

I do not stand down to a man (or a woman), but I don’t seek confrontation.

I’m logical and analytical, but I have a soul.

I’m fierce and fearless, but I’m reasonable.

I have resting bitch face, but I’m kind.

I have a strong opinion, but I respect dissent.

I value facts, but I acknowledge faith.

I’ve never been the sweet gold-haired princess in need of saving by Prince Charming.  I am my father’s daughter (and fill the shoes of a son he never had) – independent, strong, resilient – a queen! And that’s what my Valentine knew he was getting way back then and still now.

And a word about the outfit.  Pleated midi skirts are totally in right now and I talked about my faux leather one here. I like this pink tulle one as a very feminine twist on the current trend.  And, added bonus, it doesn’t break the bank. (See the bottom of the post for additional coupon codes for the skirt.) But now that you know me, you’re not surprised that I had to give this ballerina style a bit of a grown up edgy look with the black lace and leather moto jacket.  I love the fit of this jacket and I wore it in different ways here and here.

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Skirt: SHEIN || Jacket: Target, sold out, similar || Top: Target || Shoes: BCBGeneration || Bracelet: Boho Betty (Use STEFANA20 to save 20%)

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18 responses to “His (not so) Sweet Valentine”

  1. Kelsey says:

    Such a pretty skirt and I love how you styled it!!! The heels and leather jacket kind of bring a little edge to the outfit! Love!

    xo Kelsey |

    • Stefana says:

      Thank you so much Kelsey! I was going for the edgy ballerina look.

  2. Christianne says:

    This is a perfect Valentine Date look! Obsessed with your skirt
    Xpo, Christianne

    • Stefana says:

      Thank you so much Christianne! I’m in love with this skirt too – looking for occasions to wear it!

  3. ellie says:

    YES! I love this! The words are so amazing and so beautifully eloquent! Love the look too, I love tulle skirts but as adults it’s good to find ways to wear them that don’t look too sweet and girlie; this is the perfect mix of feminine and edgy!


    • Stefana says:

      I really appreciate your remark on the writing – it’s as important to me as the outfits themselves.

  4. Taylor Aube says:

    This dress is so gorgeous and I love the pink skirt, so lovely babe 🙂 Have fun at NYFW – I’ll be there in spirit 🙂

    • Stefana says:

      Thank you so much Taylor! And thanks for all your help and tips on NYFW! Hope to see you there in September!

  5. Madeeha Syed says:

    I love this look! I completely agree, I’ve definitely been known as the ‘not sweet innocent’ type just because of how outspoken I am, but it’s still fun channeling that side in fashion! This year will be my first (adult) Valentine’s Day with a boyfriend, so I’m excited for it! I hope you and your husband have tons of fun!!

    • Stefana says:

      Thank you so much Madeeha! Have so much fun at Valentine’s Day with your boyfriend!

  6. I LOVE this look on you!! It’s sweet and edgy all together!! I love the way the top lays on the waistline, so flattering!! I love your description of yourself…so fierce!! Have an amazing time in NY…lets do next Fall!!


    • Stefana says:

      Thank you so much Tiffani! We should definitely do NYFW together in the fall!

  7. Stephanie says:

    That top and skirt go so well together! Love this outfit.

  8. Jennifer says:

    OH MY GOODNESS! I love how you styled this piece. The edgy look with that splash of pink is just perfect. The shoes make the outfit.

  9. Angelica says:

    I am SOOO in love with this outfit!!! You look amazing! Actually had a gorgeous lace top like that one, but it got ruined 🙁 It’s so funny reading this, because I totally relate! I’m a complete contradicting mess haha but I love it

    • Stefana says:

      Thank you Angelica! Lucky for you, there are so many options now to replace your favorite top. And aren’t we all made up of different fibers but others try to pigeon hole us in one way or another.