On Style and Aging, Interview with my Mom

I have always had an awareness about style and I believe my appearance is a way for me to express myself, it’s an extension of my personality.  Not sure if it’s something I was born with (looking at my son, I’m inclined to think it’s a genetic trait), or something I learned.  Either way, the person I have to thank for it is my mom – she laid the foundation in my childhood that continues to be the strong base for my personal style.  Here’s my interview with her on this subject

Q: What do you think about when you see these pictures?

A: I feel happy to be with you in these pictures.  You give me confidence and make me feel good about myself. I feel proud to have raised you to be the woman that you are now.

Q: Do you have a personal style and has it changed since when you were in your 30’s?

A: I have always had a classic style that transcends the latest trends but I am also not tone deaf to what is fashionable at the moment.  I try to incorporate current elements into my classic wardrobe.  In that aspect my style hasn’t changed over the years.

Q: Did you have any fashion/style rules when you were younger that you no longer follow? Have you taken fashion risks?

A: I have taken more fashion risks in the past few years than when I was younger.  The older I get, the more confident I get in the fashion choices I make. And you contribute to my confidence.

Q: In what way? 

A: I go to you for advice when I’m unsure about those choices and if you approve, I trust your judgement. I emulate your style!

Q: That’s so interesting.  I think I emulate your style and that I have learned from you – by listening and observing.  Was there anything about fashion and style that you knew you wanted to teach me when I was a little girl?

A:  I didn’t consciously try to teach you anything.  I was always comfortable with my style and wanted you to naturally follow in my footsteps and make the same choices as me.  Most parents do, I believe!

Q: Do you think I turned out the way you hoped for me (I think I know the answer!)

A: Absolutely, even beyond my expectations!

Q: I want to turn to another subject that’s been on my mind lately, aging!  Do you remember what your thoughts were on aging when you were 36?

A: I don’t remember worrying about aging in my 30’s. I don’t think of aging in terms of wrinkles which is what worries most women.  I am concerned with what’s going on inside my body.  I am happy that my body performs better than expected for someone my age.  I am not worried about the wrinkles on my knees that you wrote about (here), instead I am happy that my knees don’t hurt.

Q: So should I not worry about the new wrinkles I keep seeing on my face?

A: No!

Q: What should I worry about at 36?

A: Don’t worry about anything! Enjoy your life!

Q: Have you ever suffered from body confidence issues?  How do you overcome them?  I think we all have them.

A: I have accepted my imperfections.  It comes with age – one good part of it.  I don’t compare myself to younger women. It’s not my goal to look younger than my age.  My goal is to be in the best shape I could possibly be.  And when I see that I look and feel better and am more physically capable than people decades younger than me – that gives me confidence and makes small body imperfections immaterial.

Q: What’s your opinion on using Botox and other similar interventions?

A: Go for it, if it will make you feel better!  I think the effect is more psychological than noticeably transformative.

Q: Would you use it?

A: Yes!

Q: So you don’t think it’s a sign of insecurity to use Botox and the likes?

A: No, at this point it’s kind of like using make up.  Just don’t go overboard.

Q: What do you think about the trend of going natural (without any makeup)?

A: I like make up as a tool that a person can use to mask some imperfections and highlight good features. As I said before, don’t overdo it.  If makeup is tastefully applied, it shouldn’t be the first thing you notice on a person.   You should be seeing the person’s face, not the make up on it!

Q: How about plastic surgery?

A: I generally don’t approve.  I think it’s rarely done successfully and it’s usually not an improvement.  I stay true to the notion that to look and feel good, and youthful, I need to take good care of myself.

Q: How do you take care of yourself?

A: I work out regularly, eat healthy (I avoid the bad stuff – processed foods, added sugar, etc.), get enough sleep, and stay out of the sun.

Q: Is there a question you’d like me to ask you that I haven’t yet?

A: You haven’t asked me if I want desert.

Q: Last question, have you always been a blonde?

A: No. I was a brunette my whole life until you suggested that I try blonde when I started to turn gray.

Q: I gave you good advice!

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16 responses to “On Style and Aging, Interview with my Mom”

  1. Cindy says:

    Awww i love this interview session! You look just like your mom and i loved getting know a bit about you both and your beautiful relationship!


  2. Gisel says:

    Such an insightful, and thorough interview with your mom! I also took a lot of style tips for the women (mom, aunt, grandmother) that influenced my own personal style. Your and your mom are total mom/daughter goals!

    • Stefana says:

      Thank you so much Gisel. I guess we’re lucky to have had stylish women in our lives to look up to and emulate.

  3. vanessa says:

    Love this post! So touching and you look so cute in your matching outfits!

    Vanessa |

    • Stefana says:

      Thanks Vanessa! I thought the matching outfits were a fun twist!

  4. Love this post- It is so refreshing. I may interview my mom- just off the record- so I have the information for future.

    • Stefana says:

      Thank you Amanda! I think it’s a great idea to interview our older relatives. There is so much insight to be gained from their experience!

  5. Ana Prodanovic says:

    So cute!!! Love the matching shirts.

    • Stefana says:

      Thank Ana! I thought it would be fun to show an outfit worn by women of two different generations.

  6. Great interview Stef! You and your Mom looked great and Ivana offers practical advice for all. She takes care of her body and mind to keep young and maintains her joie de vivre!

    • Stefana says:

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, Joe! I agree, this is sound advice for everyone – man or woman.

  7. April says:

    Your mom is such a wise person and I love what she has to say. She seems so confident and that is such an inspiration!

    • Stefana says:

      Thank you April! And yes, you are absolutely right about my mom – she’s confident and is my inspiration!

  8. Devin says:

    This is so wonderful! I love how you wrote this 🙂 You can tell that you and your mom have a close relationship and both share wonderful style! xoxo

    • Stefana says:

      Thank you so much Devin! I really appreciate it. My mom has always been my inspiration and my best friend through everything!